BABY SHOWER👶🏼 ITS A BOY 👦🏽💙

Hello my sunflowers🌻

Last weekend I attended my friends baby shower. It was so beautiful. Very different , normally people have baby showers at venues and it’s set like a mini wedding haha. But this one was very different .The baby shower  was in the comfort of the moms home . I loved that it was very intimate, not too many people. 

I have been to baby showers before but that was for my family members so this was my first time going to a friends baby shower.

It was set in a picnic style. Very comfortable , not too much of blue, just the right amount touch of blue.

In the beginning we were all given clear piece of paper and we were told to write down a message we have for the mother and then after we were all done the papers were collected.When the mother arrived she played a game where the host would read one of the messages we wrote and the mother had to guess who wrote the message for her.

It was a very funny game because it was very hard for her to guess so if she got the answer wrong then she had to drink something disgusting that the host made and that she didn’t like very much hahahaha

The other sort of game we were given was yellow roses. With each rose petal we had to say how we met the mother, stories about the mother that we might know that no one else knows and anything else you wanted to add. It was very sweet game and I think mommy loved it.

I wish Tumi a very very great pregnancy and congratulations love with your bundle of joy 🎈🎊🎉. You going to make a great mother and I cannot wait to see baby Hlubi and spoil him 👯👯💃💃love you lots 😘💖

That’s it for now my sunflowers 🌻

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One top different ways to wear

Hello my sunflowers 🌻 

Guess what today is?? It's Wednesday which means?? come on say it with me WEDNESDAY FAVOURITES!!

Today I’m going to show you a fashion pet peeve. 
Sometimes you don’t need to always buy new outfits when you have an event to attend. 
Sometimes you can wear the same top in different ways and still look amazing darling 👯👯

I’m going to you show you exactly how to do that 😊

1:  This is the original outfit.
 I bought my entire outfit at yde. So this can be for an elegant event or dinner date . 

2. Then we change it up here. We remove the pants and add a navy blue skirt  

(you can wear a different colour skirt maybe black skirt or a skirt with a darker colour) and different shoes.
 As you can see this makes the outfit look totally different. 
You can wear this to church as well. Even going out on a date. 

3. This outfit I dressed it down. 
I now added a pair of jeans and different shoes as well. This can be a day to day outfit.
This outfit you can go shopping , meeting a friend even go for coffee at your favorite coffee shop😊. 
A more laid back and chilled outfit. 

See it’s so simple , as easy as 1,2,3 😊

That’s it for now my sunflowers. Hope you liked my fashion pet peeve 

Tell me what are your fashion pet peeves? Maybe I can also learn something from you 

REMEMBER to stay blessed, BEAUTIFUL, kind and honest 

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Forgiveness is greater than hate part 2

Hello my sunflowers 🌻:)

Few weeks ago I was speaking about forgiveness and today we will continue the 2nd part of the series.

 I spoke about how to forgive a friend that has hurt you. Today will be how to forgive a partner in a relationship 😱

That’s a hard one. This one is quite complex because ALOT of things can happen in a relationship.

But let's speak about the little things that happen in a relationship that can honestly turn the relationship into the worst. 

What happens if your in a committed relationship with some one and perhaps they forget something very small but very important to you. For example, they forget

that today is my birthday, or forget a conversation that you once had that is important to you?  For us females that is very hurtful isn’t it ?

So the question is how do you deal with it and how do you forgive your partner ?

The best way is honestly to feel your disappointment, feel the hurt or anger. Because if you hold it in you will let it out to the WRONG people who don’t even deserve it. Or you will let it out to your partner in the wrong way.

So first step is to feel the hurt and then maybe take time to cool off (this depends how your temper is,if your short tempered cooling off is advisable). Then after you have cooled off , find an appropriate time to sit your partner down, DO NOT vent out through social media or through a long text message because people do not read messages the same way or even the same tone .

So once you have found an appropriate time to talk, do not say “we need to talk “😂 when you say that you make someone build up a defence mechanism already. Even though they might not be in the wrong, they are already trying to build up a way to protect themselves. 

Therefore just make sure your partner is not in a bad mood as well as the the correct timing and then you can sit them down and say “babe (or whatever you call your partner ) I felt really hurt (say how they made you feel)  yesterday when you forgot it was my birthday ,it really hurt my feelings and made me feel that you don’t care enough about me or love me “ (say what it made you feel like ). I know that you care for me and I would like/love it that in future you remember such occasions because they mean a lot to me. 

That way you are not blaming your partner and putting it all on them. 

Now if you have a REAL spouse who cares about you and your feelings they will acknowledge that and apologise and ACT on his/her apology.

If you are with someone who says “your being dramatic ,demanding , always complaining” then my friend you are with the WRONG person. Also if your with someone and they say sorry but they don’t ACT on that apology, ☝🏽 that’s a 🚩

So how do you forgive him/her?

 Every time you argue or have fights with your spouse you should not mention “and you never wished me a happy birthday “ because then you really haven’t forgiven them. Remember last time ,forgiveness means letting it GO!! And loving your spouse like as if they have never done anything in this case.

Forgiving them means not creating walls or being nasty towards them, because of that especially if they have asked for forgiveness. 

Forgiveness also means that not reminding them of their wrong doings when they make a mistake.

Because once you start doing that , it’s not good for your relationship. It will make the other person feel like they are paying for the same mistake all the time. And to be honest that is annoying.

Honestly love is about forgiveness, you have to constantly forgive your spouse ,every single day. Like I said last time, forgiveness is loving someone purposely and someone hurting you and you choosing not to revenge them to hurt them back.

That’s it for now my sunflowers 🌻

We will continue with the next series about cheating next week.

REMEMBER to stay blessed, BEAUTIFUL, kind and honest 

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My first love

Hello my sunflowers :) 🌻

The first love my of life. 

It’s a new week👯👯. New week means new opportunities! 

I know I know I have not been consistent but work has been hectic in January. But I promise to be better 

But we are in a new month ,February ,the month of “love “ haha. 

I pray that this month is a month of joy and celebration for you. 

Okay let’s get started shall we ? Since we are in a month of love, I’m going to speak about MY FIRST LOVE

Which is NETBALL!!!💗

I started playing netball when I was 7 years old and I played all the way till I was 17 years old. Then after that I decided to take a break for 4 years and I returned back at 22 years old. During those 4 years I actually wanted to play again but I was struggling to find a team that plays very well. I am a passionate player, and I’m serious about my talent. So I won’t just settle to play in any team. 

And I found a good team at 22 in Malaysia. Hah! Who would have thought that I would find my perfect team in a different country from my home country ?

Why netball? Why not hockey or basketball?

I don’t know why , I just fell inlove with this sport when I got introduced to it in primary school. 

I’ve received best player awards as well as played for the big leagues in my country. 

When I play I forget about everything , all I’m focused on is the game. It just one of things that keeps me sane. To be honest I’m seriously an emotional player, I put my ALL in it , I put my heart in it. It’s like a relationship that you work hard for. 

My favourite position to play is wing attack (WA) Why ? Because I mostly get the ball. And I play almost everywhere in the court, which I love .  But I can play all positions, I had to learn to play all. I remember in high school my coach used to say to us “ to be a great player you need to be able to play all positions because we know that we can always rely on you and you will always have more chances than others to play “ 

And because of that I learned to defend and to attack as well as to shoot. 

My least favorite position to play is goal keeper (GK)!!! It is the worst , especially for a person like me who likes to  run around. GK you just hardly get the ball, your job is to defend. And GK’s are usually very tall girls and I’m not tall at all, I have an average height. So you see it’s not meant for me 

Just to quickly explain the number on the back of my top. Number 2 is my favorite number because it’s my birthday date 👯👯I was born on the 02nd of March. 

That’s it for now my  sunflowers 😚🌻

What is your first love ? Is it a sport ? What is your favorite sport ? Or hobby that you love ? Something that makes you truly happy and you truly love ?

REMEMBER to stay blessed,honest and BEAUTIFUL. 

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