My baby had his first haircut 😭

Hello my sunflowers 🌻 

This past weekend was very difficult for me. For those that don’t know I got my cutest cutest cutest puppy in April.

I’ve had 2 dogs before in my life. My first dog I had her when I was in primary school and she passed away. Then my second dog I got him when I was in grade 11 and she also passed away. So I’ve been wanting a puppy for about 3 years now but I never got the chance to get one. So this year I gave myself a great birthday present by getting a Yorkie. 

I actually wanted to get a white Maltese. HOWEVER they are so rare to find.  Therefore I was only able to get a Yorkie. 

The picture below is the first day I got him. His so cute😍😍😍. I was so scared to hold him😂😂

Why a Yorkie ? I don’t like dogs that’s grow, I find them annoying therefore, a Yorkie was perfect for me. I wanted a dog with low maintenance and that won’t give me problems. Reason being, I am working and I do not have much time on my own to give the dog all my attention. 

My puppies name is Zoey (it’s a boy). I know Zoey is not a name for a male dog. But who cares that’s my dog and I like the name 😂😊

The picture below is when Zoentjie is sleeping ( I call him Zoentjie but my mom calls him ZO ZO).  He has his own bed. He has a pink blanket AND pink toys 😂we have to compromise. He can’t just have EVERYTHING blue 

We have been washing Zoey by ourselves but it’s has not been working for me so I decided that this weekend I will take him to a dog parlour.

I thought that I would get there and it will just take 30 minutes and I will wait and watch him get washed and etc. HOWEVER!! That did not happen. I arrived at Mutt Cuts in Centurion and they took Zoey away from me and put him in a caged dog house.

As if that was not enough!! It took them 4 hours for my child to get washed and I had to leave him there to be with people he does not know for FOUR HOURS!!!!!! I felt so sad. I called my mom and I was crying because I felt like I was leaving my baby alone and he is feeling that I am abandoning him.😭the hardest thing ever. 

HOWEVER! when I came back to the parlour and collected him, he was so excited to see me😭He immediately ran to me 😂but he looked too cute , they cut his nails , washed him ,cut his hair, trimmed his hair as well as brushed his teeth. I was happy with the service they gave me and Zoey. 

This is how he looks now. He looks so shocked haha 😂😂

But he looked beautiful. 😍

Honestly I never understood people who were attached to animals like cats and dogs. I used to find them very very weird. But I absolutely understand now, You really become attached to them, it feels like they are humans, you can see when they are unhappy, scared, and excited. The best feeling is coming home after a long day at work and you have your little puppy waiting for you at the door and jumping up and down waiting for you to pick him up awww. 

Just like humans, they have feelings as well and I truly got to learn my baby and I made vow to my self that I am not going to lose this one, he will stay alive for a very very long time. And he will get a sibling as years go by hahahaha. 

Send me an email and let me know if you feel the same about your pets. And where do you get your pets washed ? Or do you wash them

XOXO

Onthatile 

Wisdom books for the month📚📚

Hello my sunflowers 🌻 

It’s time for some wisdom books to read.

If you know me you would know I LOVE LOVE LOVE to read. I absolutely believe that everyone should read at least 1 book a month. Why ? Reading brings wisdom, you learn a new vocabulary as well as gain knowledge. 

So it’s very important to open your mind. I honestly believe knowledge is power. 

So let’s get into it.

The first book that I have been looking forward to read for a while has been Crushing by TD Jakes.

I watched a YouTube video with TD Jakes and Steven Furtik ,when he was promoting his book. He was taking about the process of making wine that in order to get to that beautiful wine. You have to pick grapes from the vineyard, then to crush the grapes is a process ,then to ferment the grape is a process. 

So in human terms he meant to get to BIGGER levels in life you have to be crushed. You can not experience greatness without going through the bad process. So what I took from it the most is why be a grape when you can be wine ? Wines last for a long time,the older the wine the tastier it is. 

I found that extremely profound because we as humans hate being crushed and we do not realize that in that crushing moment we are actually being pruned to be even greater than we were before. I Love love this book

I will add the link of the video below  
https://youtu.be/CzP23Zti-YI

So I definitely recommend you to read the book. He also speaks about his experiences that he went through in life where he was crushed. 

Then my second books is by Joyce Meyer. 

If you have been following my blog for years you would know that there is NO WAY I would not include Joyce Meyer in my book collection. I mean who is Onthatile without some bit of Joyce ? haha. Although, it is a book written for woman, I would recommend that men read it as well. 

I believe everyone in life has been hurt in one way or another, therefore forgiveness is not easy at all. So it really helps on how to FORGIVE YOURSELF. A lot of people blame themselves for a lot of things they have been through in life and struggle to forgive themselves more than other people.

Which I definitely know how it feels as well. So this book is a must read. 

That's it for now. Like I always say growth is important, any little step you make to grow is better than nothing.

REMEMBER to stay blessed, beautiful,kind and honest. 

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Wednesday favorites!!!

Heloooooo my sunflowers 

 It’s been a long time since I’ve posted. But I have not done Wednesday favorites in a very very very long time. 

Can you guys guess what today’s Wednesday’s favorite is? 😋😋😋😋😋my favorite food!!

For those that know me know that FOOD is seriously the way to my heart. I love GOOD FOOD. I am VERY PICKY when it comes to food and I would like to think that I am an expert when it comes to food

This was actually a very good meal. It was at Kream in Brooklyn. I don’t remember what this was but I think it was cheese ,mash potatoes and steak. 

My OTHER FAVORITE! 

This is definitely my favorite breakfast. This is a specialty at Tasha’s Mall of Africa. 

They don’t have this meal at other Tasha’s in Gauteng. 

So drum roll please 👏👏👏👏👏this is chicken livers with an omelette on top.This is AMAZING!!!

My other favorite is SEAFOOD😆

I seriously LOVE seafood and one of my favorites are mussels or oysters. I don’t know why I love seafood but it’s amazing!

My other favorite seafood meal are prawns and calamari. I have not tried a lobster but I seriously would love to try one, If anyone knows the BEST lobster places please let me know.  

         

                         

My favorite dessert is definitely malva pudding I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!!! My wedding is definitely going to have Malva pudding. So I eat Malva pudding with custard. I’m not a fan of ice cream. Honestly the best Malva pudding I’ve had is from woolworths . I’ve been to great restaurants that have Malva pudding but it’s not that great like the one from woolies. 

That's it for now. 

Hope you all enjoyed reading this blog like I enjoyed writing about it 

Don't forget to stay BEAUTIFUL, blessed, honest and kind

xoxo

Onthatile

I AM A GRADUATE 🎓 

I am so proud of my myself. This journey was not easy but God did it. If he can start it and then he will finish it no matter how long the journey takes you.When I was in high school honestly I used to think that university was easy and only being in university I learned that not everyone who starts with you in first year finishes with you. Some people drop out because school is just not for them , some people take 5 years to finish a degree  because they keep failing or parents couldn’t pay their fees. There are a GIZZILION reasons. 

So I just want to say congratulations to everyone who has graduated, I know the late nights were not easy , waking up early for an 8am class, preparing for those loooong essays.

But you did it ! 

I am super proud to be the first grandchild to graduate. And as the only girl in my Family full of boys only. I was even more proud that my gramz is alive to see me graduate and to see me walk up the stage. I told my granny during my first year that she has to stay alive to see me graduate and walk down the aisle and look at God. He was able to keep her to see the first part.

Thank you to everyone that was part of my journey from the beginning till the end and never left my sight ❤️

xoxo 

Onthatile

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BABY SHOWER👶🏼 ITS A BOY 👦🏽💙

Hello my sunflowers🌻

Last weekend I attended my friends baby shower. It was so beautiful. Very different , normally people have baby showers at venues and it’s set like a mini wedding haha. But this one was very different .The baby shower  was in the comfort of the moms home . I loved that it was very intimate, not too many people. 

I have been to baby showers before but that was for my family members so this was my first time going to a friends baby shower.

It was set in a picnic style. Very comfortable , not too much of blue, just the right amount touch of blue.

In the beginning we were all given clear piece of paper and we were told to write down a message we have for the mother and then after we were all done the papers were collected.When the mother arrived she played a game where the host would read one of the messages we wrote and the mother had to guess who wrote the message for her.

It was a very funny game because it was very hard for her to guess so if she got the answer wrong then she had to drink something disgusting that the host made and that she didn’t like very much hahahaha

The other sort of game we were given was yellow roses. With each rose petal we had to say how we met the mother, stories about the mother that we might know that no one else knows and anything else you wanted to add. It was very sweet game and I think mommy loved it.

I wish Tumi a very very great pregnancy and congratulations love with your bundle of joy 🎈🎊🎉. You going to make a great mother and I cannot wait to see baby Hlubi and spoil him 👯👯💃💃love you lots 😘💖

That’s it for now my sunflowers 🌻

REMEMBER to stay blessed, kind, honest and BEAUTIFUL

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One top different ways to wear

Hello my sunflowers 🌻 

Guess what today is?? It's Wednesday which means?? come on say it with me WEDNESDAY FAVOURITES!!

Today I’m going to show you a fashion pet peeve. 
Sometimes you don’t need to always buy new outfits when you have an event to attend. 
Sometimes you can wear the same top in different ways and still look amazing darling 👯👯

I’m going to you show you exactly how to do that 😊

1:  This is the original outfit.
 I bought my entire outfit at yde. So this can be for an elegant event or dinner date . 

2. Then we change it up here. We remove the pants and add a navy blue skirt  

(you can wear a different colour skirt maybe black skirt or a skirt with a darker colour) and different shoes.
 As you can see this makes the outfit look totally different. 
You can wear this to church as well. Even going out on a date. 

3. This outfit I dressed it down. 
I now added a pair of jeans and different shoes as well. This can be a day to day outfit.
This outfit you can go shopping , meeting a friend even go for coffee at your favorite coffee shop😊. 
A more laid back and chilled outfit. 

See it’s so simple , as easy as 1,2,3 😊

That’s it for now my sunflowers. Hope you liked my fashion pet peeve 

Tell me what are your fashion pet peeves? Maybe I can also learn something from you 

REMEMBER to stay blessed, BEAUTIFUL, kind and honest 

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Forgiveness is greater than hate part 2

Hello my sunflowers 🌻:)

Few weeks ago I was speaking about forgiveness and today we will continue the 2nd part of the series.

 I spoke about how to forgive a friend that has hurt you. Today will be how to forgive a partner in a relationship 😱

That’s a hard one. This one is quite complex because ALOT of things can happen in a relationship.

But let's speak about the little things that happen in a relationship that can honestly turn the relationship into the worst. 

What happens if your in a committed relationship with some one and perhaps they forget something very small but very important to you. For example, they forget

that today is my birthday, or forget a conversation that you once had that is important to you?  For us females that is very hurtful isn’t it ?

So the question is how do you deal with it and how do you forgive your partner ?

The best way is honestly to feel your disappointment, feel the hurt or anger. Because if you hold it in you will let it out to the WRONG people who don’t even deserve it. Or you will let it out to your partner in the wrong way.

So first step is to feel the hurt and then maybe take time to cool off (this depends how your temper is,if your short tempered cooling off is advisable). Then after you have cooled off , find an appropriate time to sit your partner down, DO NOT vent out through social media or through a long text message because people do not read messages the same way or even the same tone .

So once you have found an appropriate time to talk, do not say “we need to talk “😂 when you say that you make someone build up a defence mechanism already. Even though they might not be in the wrong, they are already trying to build up a way to protect themselves. 

Therefore just make sure your partner is not in a bad mood as well as the the correct timing and then you can sit them down and say “babe (or whatever you call your partner ) I felt really hurt (say how they made you feel)  yesterday when you forgot it was my birthday ,it really hurt my feelings and made me feel that you don’t care enough about me or love me “ (say what it made you feel like ). I know that you care for me and I would like/love it that in future you remember such occasions because they mean a lot to me. 

That way you are not blaming your partner and putting it all on them. 

Now if you have a REAL spouse who cares about you and your feelings they will acknowledge that and apologise and ACT on his/her apology.

If you are with someone who says “your being dramatic ,demanding , always complaining” then my friend you are with the WRONG person. Also if your with someone and they say sorry but they don’t ACT on that apology, ☝🏽 that’s a 🚩

So how do you forgive him/her?

 Every time you argue or have fights with your spouse you should not mention “and you never wished me a happy birthday “ because then you really haven’t forgiven them. Remember last time ,forgiveness means letting it GO!! And loving your spouse like as if they have never done anything in this case.

Forgiving them means not creating walls or being nasty towards them, because of that especially if they have asked for forgiveness. 

Forgiveness also means that not reminding them of their wrong doings when they make a mistake.

Because once you start doing that , it’s not good for your relationship. It will make the other person feel like they are paying for the same mistake all the time. And to be honest that is annoying.

Honestly love is about forgiveness, you have to constantly forgive your spouse ,every single day. Like I said last time, forgiveness is loving someone purposely and someone hurting you and you choosing not to revenge them to hurt them back.

That’s it for now my sunflowers 🌻

We will continue with the next series about cheating next week.

REMEMBER to stay blessed, BEAUTIFUL, kind and honest 

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